"Rainbow" (rainbeaux)
10/25/2019 at 00:11 • Filed to: None
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"Rainbow" (rainbeaux)
10/25/2019 at 00:11 • Filed to: None | 0
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Some guy who used to bully me online found me through a shared post by a mutual friend and decided to be a transphobic bigot (For context, it was a picture of my wheel prepped for paint. The only thing he could possibly be referring to is my new name).
Said “friend” just laugh reacted to his comment instead of defending me. I get that he’s in an awkward position, but I kind of feel like he’s just throwing me under the bus because he values the asshole over me. Should I just unfriend him, or try to talk to him about it? Or just let it go? I couldn’t care less what the asshole says because I know he’s just a pathetic loser with no life, but that means that my “friend” would prefer to laugh along with a pathetic loser at my expense than call him out on this. I feel betrayed, you know?
And if there was any doubt:
Chariotoflove
> Rainbow
10/25/2019 at 00:28 |
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I would feel the exact same way. I’m fiercely tribal, and loyalty about that kind of thing is critical to me, for good or ill.
Chuckles
> Rainbow
10/25/2019 at 00:30 |
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If the friendship was important to you, a message along the lines of "what the fuck, dude?" would be appropriate. If the friendship wasn't important, block the "friend," block the bully, and move on with your life. Fuck em. But block the bully either way.
Svend
> Rainbow
10/25/2019 at 00:34 |
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I’d block the Datsun prick and next time I saw your friend, just ask why he liked the comment exactly, because he didn’t have to like it and could of left it alone, but chose to like the comment.
Akio Ohtori - RIP Oppo
> Rainbow
10/25/2019 at 00:34 |
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Only one reaction:
sm70- why not Duesenberg?
> Rainbow
10/25/2019 at 00:42 |
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Going with what others are saying. Block the asshole, a sk the friend why they didn’t stick up for you and seem to find amusement in said asshole. If they don’t give a satisfactory answer, block them too
CompactLuxuryFan
> Rainbow
10/25/2019 at 00:46 |
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Neither of them is your true friend! Cut em both out to make room for better people! Hugs!
Nick Has an Exocet
> Rainbow
10/25/2019 at 01:17 |
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I would let the friend caught in the middle know that you would have appeciated some backup, but that you understand if they aren’t yet fully comfortable with that. As for the douchenozzle making the comments, I’d just let it go. If it wasn’t you tonight, he would have found someone else to put down, or a dog to kick, or a wife to beat. People like that aren’t worth the effort.
RallyDarkstrike - Fan of 2-cyl FIATs, Eastern Bloc & Kei cars
> Rainbow
10/25/2019 at 06:22 |
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If it were me, I would just block the guy, ignore any more messages from him and explain to your friend you feel hurt that he did nothing to defend you from these remarks.
If only EssExTee could be so grossly incandescent
> Rainbow
10/25/2019 at 06:23 |
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My two cents? Don’t put any stock in anything on f acebook. Text and emote based communication is ambiguous at best. For all you know he was laughing at how ridiculous this guy is. Just ask him “hey, what the hell was that about? ”. Better to get a direct response you can take action on than to sit and stew over it and let it unnecessarily p oison your relationship with this friend.
Form opinions on people based on your actual face-to-face interactions. Fretting over Facebook nonsense is stress that you don’t need.
SilentButNotReallyDeadly...killed by G/O Media
> Rainbow
10/25/2019 at 07:14 |
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So much fuck off Facebook...
Stef Schrader
> Chuckles
10/25/2019 at 07:27 |
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Yup—that exactly. Clearly this is no “friend” unless that chuckle was somehow aimed at the bully and got lost in translation. You know these dudes better than I do.
If it’s not worth the mental exhaustion of bothering with these douchebags and you know in your heart that this laugh-reacc wasn’t lost in translation, just yeet them out of your life.
I know Facebook won’t do anything because it profits off letting nazis have a safe space to post bad memes, but you might as well report Ian here on his way out, too. Maybe Facebutt will
come to their senses for a change and ban
the dude’s profile.
Either way, you should
just propel this butthole out of your life as quickly as possible.
Mercedes Streeter
> Rainbow
10/25/2019 at 07:38 |
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I’m so so sorry, love. *Hugs*
Alright, so here’s how I’d handle it. I’d troll the transphobic guy if I can for a while. If it doesn’t work or gets boring I’d block and move on. I normally try to educate transphobic people, but brick walls and hostile people can’t be educated. So I’ll play with them instead. Show that their petty anger is wasted. Shoot, if it's a public post I wouldn't even have protected their identity in a screenshot.
As for the friend? Oh I’d call them out right then, right there. I have no time for people who enable transphobic people in my life. Friends should be supportive all the way through.
Side note: Love the name!!!
ITA97, now with more Jag @ opposite-lock.com
> Rainbow
10/25/2019 at 08:07 |
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I’d block the bully after saving some screenshots, just in case they ever try to do something important someday down the road. As for the other friend, my read would probably be that they’re no friend I would want in my life, but it might be worth having a conversation along the lines of “what the fuck was that about, and why did you go along with it...” Maybe something was lost in translation, and maybe there is a teachable but moment at hand, but I’d be wary of them if I chose to keep them in my life in any way.
This is crap when it happen among kids, and it has absolutely no place among adults. Screw them, and I'm sorry you still have to deal with things like this.
Milky
> Rainbow
10/25/2019 at 09:12 |
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Find out who his parents are and have sex with one of them. Peak bully move.
Highlander-Datsuns are Forever
> Rainbow
10/25/2019 at 09:19 |
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This A Hole is giving Datsun a bad name.
The Ghost of Oppo
> Rainbow
10/25/2019 at 09:43 |
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Anyone who bullies people on facebook deserves to be cancelled. Goad the asshole into saying something bigoted and send screenshots to their boss.
vicali
> Rainbow
10/25/2019 at 10:14 |
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What kind of miserable POS goes looking for old high school victims again? If he’s not apologizing for being a di ck back then he’s not worth a second of your time.
Now wheels, let’s see em!
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Rainbow
> Milky
10/25/2019 at 10:14 |
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Already did. Twice.
Camshaft Chris: Skyline/McLaren/Porsche Fanboy
> Rainbow
10/25/2019 at 11:10 |
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Fuck that guy. Fuck both of ‘em really. Ian is spewing with ignorance, intolerance, and transphobia, and you’re “friend” is just laughing it off. Not cool. If he’s really you’re friend, he should of stuck up for you. I’d call him out. I mean, honestly, he may just not know how much of an affect being passive like that can have, and it just needs to be brought to his attention. But the other guy’s a douche. I’d hit that FB report button on his comments if I were you. But then again, I can be petty like that, lol.
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Camshaft Chris: Skyline/McLaren/Porsche Fanboy
> Mercedes Streeter
10/25/2019 at 11:15 |
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I like your train of thought there. Hell, why not go all in and put ‘em on blast in a public post? Show the world their true colors, and let all the mutual friends see that shit.
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Rainbow
> vicali
10/25/2019 at 11:20 |
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I still gotta get some rust penetrant because the rear wheels are fused to the hubs, but the fronts are nice and white!
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vicali
> Rainbow
10/25/2019 at 12:13 |
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Fronts look great! looks like a drift truck with mismatch..
To get stuck wheels off;
https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Dead_blow_hammer
Hit them at 12/6/3/9 o’clock positions on the wheel.
I know Oppos have suggested the loose nut solution
but I don’t like possibly beaking parts to fix parts method..